“I will never make it again”, she announced. Her attempt to make the dish has not turned good. Or as per her it was failure.
Failure has a magnifying power on our life. One failure can turn us into losers, idiots and what not for life. Failure comes with a lot of devastating effect at the personal level.
The natural reaction of disappointment on failure is genuine and can be justified. A person puts lot of efforts in things. And mostly the world around is busy to notice our efforts. It judges our roles and caliber on basis of the final results only. It is easier to judge and score that.
One catastrophic effect of failure is to see the person leaving the game itself. Due to one failed opportunity the person may choose to move away from that area. At times people just lose the confidence also.
And another terrible impact is that many people don’t even try with the fear of failure. The fear to fail limits us within the boundaries created by our mind. We do not want to be seen as failures. Rather we choose remain none.
However, reality is that life is meant to live. Things keep moving. And somewhere, at some moment we may face the situation of fall. Event after being cautious and careful, we can slip at some time. In those situations, having a failure proof mindset can help to recover and bounce faster.
Following checkpoints can help us to put a brave show in the situations of failure
F: Fight or Flight:
Very well know choice. We all have heard of it. Every failure may not give you this choice in physical sense. But this choice is more of mental level. In your mind, how are you placed. Are you ready to stick and try. Or have already started packing the bags.
A: Adjust:
Life comes with choices and chances. As the dialogue was in movie Hasee to Phasee, “Chance kabhi bhi last nahi, hamesha second last hota hai”. Keeping flexible mindset helps us to evaluate and pick up things better. Being open to things and ready to adjust may save us from breaking in stubbornness. Flexibility should not be seen as absence of assertiveness. Flexibility coming from a well-researched position should be welcome.
I: Introspect:
Failure can turn us sour. Hating the system and the people around. From the position of failure, we can see a lot of people to blame for. Yes, there can be many contributors to overall scenario. However, we all play some role in our failure. We may say that we are helpless. But finding what can be improved in our role can help us. We cannot plan to change anyone else but have full control on ourself.
L: Live and Laugh:
Keeping positive spirit in the tough times is not possible. In such times having a solid support system helps. The people in our lives are our real strength. Having positive and uplifting company in tough times prevents the failure to break us. It helps us to overcome the phase and bounce back stronger. So, keep growing your support system. When we become too busy to connect, we find ourselves standing alone in tough times.
